Category Archives: Raising Children

On Preventing Nightmares

Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

What can we read to stop our children having nightmares?

You should teach them to read Ayat al-Kursi before they sleep if they are able to read it. If not, it should be read over them. If they are old enough, they should also read Ayat al-Kursi and Surat al-Inshirah after every prayer.

 

On Protecting Our Children in Western Society

Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

 How do we protect our children from bad influences in the society in which we live? We fear for their faith.

It is good to have fear for our children since corruption is everywhere, especially in societies the values of which are distant from Islamic values. This fear must not, however, lead to despair but rather should lead us to take action. Allah gave the believers a model in the life of the wife of Fir`awn. In spite of the fact that she lived with Fir`awn in his palace, she will be rewarded by being a wife of the Prophet ﷺ in the next life due to her truthfulness, patience and firmness.

This fear should lead us to create environments which protect our children and to shut the doors to corruption as far as we are able. We should arrange group activities for our children according to their age. These activities should be enjoyable and safe from any harm. We should also give them a portion of adhkar to read and give them that which illuminates their minds.

If it is possible to move to an environment which is better for our children then we can do that as long as that does not lead us to neglect any responsibility we have in the place where we are currently living. Otherwise we should remain where we are and follow the principles mentioned.

 

Should we send our children to a better environment?

We should send them at an age where they are mature enough to live in that environment are able to receive knowledge.

Advice On Raising Children

Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

 

What advice do you have for raising children well?

  • We should have good intentions in doing so.
  • We should be conscious of their feelings and emotions.
  • We should let them constantly hear the remembrance of Allah and His Messengerﷺ.
  • We should gradually accustom them to following the Sunnah.
  • We should protect them from being exposed to evil and evil people whether that be through the company they keep or the things they watch or listen to.

On Balancing Awrad and Household Duties

Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

A lot of my time is spent raising my children and doing the housework. How can I be consistent in reading my awrad?

Try to read the awrad while doing the housework. Perhaps the children will then memorise these awrad. A young child memorised Surah Ya Sin before knowing how to read and write just by hearing his mother reciting it while cleaning the house every day.

On Raising Children and Mobile Devices

 

Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

 

How do we raise our children in an open society in which they have access to mobile devices?

Firstly we should plant veneration and vigilance of Allah in their hearts through talking to them, spending time with them and taking them to attend gatherings of knowledge and remembrance. We should also tell them about the people of the past who had fear of Allah and show them videos and talks by scholars that will increase their fear of Allah.

We should put some restriction upon their use of these devices and upon their interaction with society so that they learn to take that which is of benefit and leave that which is not.