Category Archives: Family & Marriage

Adhkar for Someone Preparing to Get Married

Hb Umar Tarim

Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

I am preparing to get married. Is there something I should recite at this time?

Recite the following in abundance:

مَا شَاءَ اللهُ لا حَوْلَ ولا قوَّةَ إلَّا باللهِ

اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلى سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وآلِ سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وبارِكْ وسَلِّمْ

Ma sha Allah la hawl wa la quwata illa billah

Allahumma salli ala sayyidina Muhammad wa ali sayyidina Muhammad wa barik wa sallim

This is what Allah willed; there is no strength or power save by Allah.

O Allah, bestow prayers, peace and blessings upon our Master Muhammad and his Family


Also repeat the last two verses of Surat al-Tawbah. This has the effect of bringing harmony between people.

لَقَدْ جَاءكُمْ رَسُولٌ مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ عَزِيزٌ عَلَيْهِ مَا عَنِتُّمْ حَرِيصٌ عَلَيْكُم بِالْمُؤْمِنِينَ رَؤُوفٌ رَّحِيمٌ فَإِن تَوَلَّوْاْ فَقُلْ حَسْبِيَ اللَّهُ لا إِلَـهَ إِلاَّ هُوَ عَلَيْهِ تَوَكَّلْتُ وَهُوَ رَبُّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيمِ

Laqad ja’akum rasulumin anfusikum `azizun `alayhi ma `anittum harisun `alaykum bi’lmu’minin ra’ufurrahim. Fa in tawallaw faqul hasbiyallahu la ilaha illa Hu `alayhi tawakkaltu wa huwa rabbu’l-`arshi’-l-`azim.

There has come to you a Messenger from among yourselves, grievous to whom is your burden, concerned (is he) for you; for the believers (he is) full of compassion, merciful. If they turn away say: ‘Allah is sufficient for me; there is no deity save He. On Him do I rely; He is the Lord of the Awesome Throne.’ (Al-Tawbah, 9:128-9)

On Moving into a New House

 Hb Umar Tarim

Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

What should we do upon moving into a new house for blessings?

You should intend what the pious intended when they moved into a new house. Part of that is to intend that your house be a place of mercy, knowledge, remembrance of Allah and a place in which guests are received and honoured.

It should be a place in which the images of the pious are seen and their voices are heard and not a place where the images of the corrupt are seen and their voices are heard.

You should invite the pious, your relatives and those that you love for Allah’s sake and recite the mawlid along with Surah Ya Sin as a housewarming celebration.

You should recite the Qur’an and the adhkar in the house in abundance.  Surat al-Baqarah specifically should be recited , ideally every three days but if that is not possible then at least once.

Whenever any family member enters they should mention Allah’s name and recite Ayat al-Kursi once and Surat al-Ikhlas three times.


Advice on Reconciliation


Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

What advice do you have for someone involved in reconciling between conflicting parties?

This is a great thing and there is a great reward in it. Someone engaged in this should humbly plead with Allah for success and then he should surrender the affair to Allah. He should take people’s personalities and understandings into consideration so that what he says will be accepted by them.

On the Best Month in Which to Get Married

Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

What is the best month in which to get married?

The best month in which to contract the marriage is Shawwal, because it was in this month that the Prophet ﷺ married Sayyidatuna `Aishah. He later consummated the marriage in the same month. The next best month is Safar, in which Sayyidatuna Fatimah married Sayyiduna `Ali.

On Dealing With Parents Arguing

Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

My parents are constantly arguing. What should I do?

You should not enter into the argument and you should not take sides but rather you should respect both your parents and treat them well. If you see that one of them has made a mistake and you are able to give them sincere advice then you do so with complete etiquette.

Adkhar for Someone Who Has Not Been Able to Conceive

Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

What can someone who has not been able to conceive recite?

Our Shaykh, Habib `Attas al-Habashi, used to recommend reciting Surat al-Fatihah 41 times between the Sunnah and Fard of Fajr with the intention of being blessed with a child.

Also recite the following verses 100 times a day or more or less:

رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِن لَّدُنْكَ ذُرِّيَّةً طَيِّبَةً إِنَّكَ سَمِيعُ الدُّعَاء

Rabbi hab li milladunka dhurriyyatan tayyibatan innaka sami`u-du`a’

“O my Lord! Grant me from You pure descendants, for You hear all prayers!” (Al `Imran, 3:38)

رَبِّ لا تَذَرْني فَرْداً و أَنْتَ خَيْرُ الوارِثينَ

Rabbi la tadharni fardan wa anta khayrul-warithin

“O my Lord! Leave me not without offspring, and You are the best of inheritors.” (Al-Anbiya’, 21:89)


رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhurriyyatina qurrata `ayun wa’ja’lna lilmuttaqina imama

“Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.” (Al-Furqan, 25:74)

On Non Muslim Parents Who Engage in Forbidden Things

Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)

How do we deal with non-Muslim parents when they engage in things which are forbidden?

You should show mercy to them and wish that Allah guides them and use whatever means are available to enable this. Treat them well at all times but avoid their company when they are doing things which are inappropriate or are disobeying Allah. Give them gifts and assist them in all that is permissible.

ADVICE: Protecting our Children from Bad Influences

Answered by Sayyidi al-Habib `Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah preserve him and benefit us by him). 

How do we protect our children from bad influences in the society in which we live? We fear for their faith.

It is good to have fear for our children since corruption is everywhere, especially in societies the values of which are distant from Islamic values. This fear must not, however, lead to despair but rather should lead us to take action. Allah gave the believers a model in the life of the wife of Fir`awn. In spite of the fact that she lived with Fir`awn in his palace, she will be rewarded by being a wife of the Prophet ﷺ in the next life due to her truthfulness, patience and firmness.

This fear should lead us to create environments which protect our children and to shut the doors to corruption as far as we are able. We should arrange group activities for our children according to their age. These activities should be enjoyable and safe from any harm. We should also give them a portion of adhkar to read and give them that which illuminates their minds.

If it is possible to move to an environment which is better for our children then we can do that as long as that does not lead us to neglect any responsibility we have in the place where we are currently living. Otherwise we should remain where we are and follow the principles mentioned.