Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)
What are the etiquettes of a husband and wife in the bedroom?
The Prophet ﷺ taught us the correct etiquette for every situation and believers strive to abide by these etiquettes.
Before intercourse they should both recite the Prophetic dua: Continue reading Etiquettes in the Bedroom
Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)
I am preparing to get married. Is there something I should recite at this time?
Recite the following in abundance:
Continue reading Adhkar for Someone Preparing to Get Married
Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)
What should we do upon moving into a new house for blessings?
You should intend what the pious intended when they moved into a new house. Part of that is to intend that your house be a place of mercy, knowledge, remembrance of Allah and a place in which guests are received and honoured. Continue reading On Moving into a New House
Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)
What advice do you have for someone involved in reconciling between conflicting parties?
This is a great thing and there is a great reward in it. Someone engaged in this should humbly plead with Allah for success and then he should surrender the affair to Allah. He should take people’s personalities and understandings into consideration so that what he says will be accepted by them.
Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)
When is remaining single better than getting married?
If when you got married you would fall into acts of disobedience and fail to fulfil the rights of your spouse then it would be better to remain single.
Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)
What is the best month in which to get married?
The best month in which to contract the marriage is Shawwal, because it was in this month that the Prophet ﷺ married Sayyidatuna `Aishah. He later consummated the marriage in the same month. The next best month is Safar, in which Sayyidatuna Fatimah married Sayyiduna `Ali.
Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)
My parents are constantly arguing. What should I do?
You should not enter into the argument and you should not take sides but rather you should respect both your parents and treat them well. If you see that one of them has made a mistake and you are able to give them sincere advice then you do so with complete etiquette.
Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)
What can someone who has not been able to conceive recite?
Our Shaykh, Habib ‘Attas al-Habashi, used to recommend reciting Surat al-Fatihah 41 times between the Sunnah and Fard of Fajr with the intention of being blessed with a child. Continue reading Adkhar for Someone Who Has Not Been Able to Conceive
Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)
How do we deal with non-Muslim parents when they engage in things which are forbidden?
You should show mercy to them and wish that Allah guides them and use whatever means are available to enable this. Treat them well at all times but avoid their company when they are doing things which are inappropriate or are disobeying Allah. Give them gifts and assist them in all that is permissible.
Answered by Sayyidi Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him)
How do we give advice to parents or relatives who are older than us if they disobey Allah?
We should ask elders or people they respect to give them advice. We can also give them books or show them videos which we think may affect them. The consequences in the next life of acts of disobedience may be mentioned to them but indirectly and with the appropriate respect and courtesy.
In general we should not be overly affected by the negative things we see in them. We should focus on their positive attributes and do what we can to rectify the situation.
